Resumes and War

I hate them both. And everyone needs to slow TF down.

I hate resumes.

I know it’s strange to hear from a career coach but hear me out! 

Not only are resumes antiquated, they’re unnecessary and are often a momentum blocker and time suck for people interested in a career change or job search.

You become dissatisfied with your current job. What’s the first thing you usually do? Go straight into resume-updating mode. It’s often prioritized before doing other essential steps like pausing to reflect on why you’re unhappy, what you’d rather do, why, what drives your motivation, etc.

It’s like trying to build a house without a blueprint. You may end up with something, but it may not be what you actually wanted, and will likely crumble sooner than you’d like.

I get why the resume gets so much hype though. It’s tangible and easily justifiable as an accomplishment once done. Plus, did you know it’s 500 years old 🤯 with the first documented resume being a letter from Leonardo Di Vinci to Milan, trying to land a job? 

And unlike the resume…

👉 Self-reflection is conceptual and it requires the ability to listen to yourself, which is hard with low attention spans as a society, so it’s often skipped. 

👉 Networking can be draining for introverts or feel like you’re bothering others, so when it’s prioritized, it’s not done right, giving off desperate or needy vibes.

👉 Trying to maintain a presence on yet another social media platform like LinkedIn feels like a lot to take on. 

But I guarantee that if you’re feeling antsy at your current work and want to start looking for something new, slow TF down and shift your resume-obsessed energy to these three things instead, you’ll see a much clearer picture, with a positive return on your time. 

I hate wars.

As we’re all grappling with nonstop news and opinions about war and conflict, not only is it impossible to keep up with it all, there’s not even a moment available for grieving. There’s endless pressure for everyone (and their mamas) to say something. 😩

Media consumption in the form of soundbites without the full context is forcing everyone into reactionary mode. The masses are jumping in without pausing to think, and then respond. There’s no right thing to say or feel anymore.

It’s complicated and it sucks, to say the least.

Especially during this time of polarizing world views, misinformation, and one-sided media reporting, it’s more important than ever before to slow TF down, educate, and listen, to be able to formulate your own thoughts and respond with more intention and compassion.

Now for anyone who cares to know, here are my two cents. 

We must remember that everything we’re seeing unfold in the world is caused by decades and centuries of hyper-masculine systems of power, driven by the obsession with dominance and wealth.

I WILL NEVER root for systems of oppression and will never stand for hate or violence in any form toward anyone. Innocent human lives are being taken daily and future generations of both Israelis and Palestinians will be severely impacted. 😔

Many people in my community are hurting, with hate crimes on the rise, and getting attacked online with hateful words, for expressing a feeling. 

I WILL ALWAYS root for human rights and the freedom to live — regardless of political, cultural, ethnic, or socioeconomic background or who the political leader of their area happens to be.

It’s infuriating to know that the divisiveness we’re all experiencing is being puppeteered by those at the top with the most wealth and influence. We are all getting PLAYED for fools while the armed, rich, and powerful are the ones winning.

It’s hard to put anything into coherent words these days, but Elizabeth Spiers was able to say exactly how I’m feeling in her latest NYT Opinion essay:

“Concern for Palestinians is portrayed as support for Hamas or hatred toward Israel or Jews in general. Anger about Hamas’s deadly attacks on Israeli citizens — or any mention of antisemitism — is portrayed as denigrating the dignity of all Palestinian lives. This kind of thinking is deeply unserious and further fuels hostilities, warping nuanced positions into extremism and mistaking tweet-length expressions of outrage for brave action in the face of atrocity.”

So, in closing, I hate resumes. I hate wars, violence, and systems of oppression.

And I hope you can find ways to slow TF down and find ways to be well.

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